{"id":113291,"date":"2021-05-08T13:20:55","date_gmt":"2021-05-08T17:20:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/valorguardians.com\/blog\/?p=113291"},"modified":"2021-05-08T13:32:14","modified_gmt":"2021-05-08T17:32:14","slug":"dear-abby-stolen-valor-incident","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.azuse.cloud\/?p=113291","title":{"rendered":"Dear Abby Stolen Valor Incident"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Dear Abby writer Jeanne Phillips is a syndicated columnist.<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

The columnist for the Dear Abby<\/em> column weighed in on an uncomfortable situation.<\/p>\n

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Dear Abby: Our shopping trip turned into a \u2018stolen valor\u2019 incident<\/span><\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

My friend\u2019s request put me in an awkward situation. Was I too easily offended?<\/em><\/p>\n

DEAR ABBY:<\/strong> While shopping with a friend recently, I was put in an awkward situation in regard to a store discount.<\/p>\n

Having served in the military, I qualify for a discount at that particular store. She was aware of that discount, and while she was at the checkout lane, she yelled at me, \u201cHey, what\u2019s your phone number for your military discount?\u201d<\/p>\n

We are both retired and living on one income. I am married and live on my husband\u2019s pension. She\u2019s retired from a job in the medical field, owns her home and shows up conveniently at friends\u2019 homes for coffee and food.<\/p>\n

I was so dumbfounded at her request for the number that I gave it to her.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m uncomfortable going shopping with her now. I haven\u2019t addressed it with her, and I have tried to avoid any shopping trips with her since that incident. It feels like she\u2019s stealing my valor since my husband and I served in the military. Am I too easily offended?<\/p>\n

RETIRED IN ALASKA<\/em><\/p>\n

DEAR RETIRED:<\/strong>\u00a0I\u2019m glad you mentioned valor in your letter because it\u2019s time for you to summon up some more. Unless you want this person to continue taking advantage of you, set her straight. She is not entitled to the discount, and you must learn to refuse if and when she puts you in that position again.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

It is odd for the lady’s friend to put her in that situation.\u00a0 Putting that aside, would it be the same thing if you were with a military veteran and your friend asked you to buy the items for them and they would give you the money once outside the store?<\/p>\n

What if they weren’t with you and your neighbor asked you to pick them up a can of paint while at the store and gave you some money.\u00a0 Say the paint cost $30 per can and that is what your neighbor gave you.\u00a0 If you got the 10% discount, would you refund him the $3, pocket it for your military service, or pay as a separate transaction while at the store?<\/p>\n

What if you were at Applebee’s enjoying your free Veteran’s Day dinner and your non-veteran friend asked you for a French Fry?<\/p>\n

So many ethical questions.\u00a0 I don’t mean to trivialize it, but there are<\/em> situations that fall all along the stolen valor spectrum.<\/p>\n

Do you see this all as just splitting pubic hairs, or as some would say – much ado about nothing?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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