Putting up that post about Jonn was the worst thing I’ve ever had to do. I really did spend the entire night sobbing. But you know how in the military things get stupid shitty and you have no option but to soldier on to the next task? Well, I had to do that, to the best of my ability.
I’ve blogged here, or represented the blog in one capacity of another for 10 years. Slightly over that. We get so many lawsuits it would make your head spin. Some you know about, some you don’t. Because of one I had to take a hiatus from blogging. Not because I wanted to, but because my employer was getting brought into it, and they justifiably wanted me to limit their liability while that was going on. Some of you have seen the final judgement, and you know what my lawyers fees alone were. I could have bought Peyton Manning’s house for about the same. (And what I’ve received so far couldn’t buy a stamp.)
I kept my law license despite not really working as a lawyer because I wanted to be able to help Jonn and the blog as much as I could. When I had twins this year, it was getting too much. But I still helped Jonn and the blog as much as I could behind the scenes.
But I want to make one thing clear, in the roughly 7 years of representing him and 10 years of blogging, I’ve never received a nickel. And I told Jonn if he sent me any money I’d kick him in the balls. He graciously offered to pay my law license, and I declined that as well. He did get me a wedding gift, and he bought me a kindle for my birthday one year. No one else here gets paid either. So let me put that out of your heads, we got nothing, and were happy with that. In the future, we will get nothing, and we are happy with that. When we did fundraisers, all of us would contribute our own money as well.
I had kind of hoped when I put up the post people would want to mothball the blog. That decidedly was not your opinions as I read them, you want this blog….well, this COMMUNITY to continue. So, for now at least we will make it work however we do it.
Yes, we took down the PayPal that went to Jonn. But not for the reasons that seems to be popping up. We’re trying to get Jonn’s name off all this stuff for legal reasons. I spent part of the week with Jonn’s family, digging in his drawers, going through his files, talking to the funeral director, trying to arrange the wake and 15 million other things. I took leave from work, drove 10 hours each way and did what I could to help his wife and kids. And I will continue to do that. Taking off his PayPal wasn’t an effort to get me off food stamps. You can’t have lawsuits that go after his estate, wife and kids. So I have to get that stuff fixed. But I gave every penny to the family. I’m helping them with innumerable things, that one is pretty minor to be frank.
Alas, on the list of shit I have to accomplish, figuring out the blog is SUPER low priority. The family is my priority. Jonn is my priority. For instance, I know Jonn wanted his wake open casket and in his uniform. Well, his uniform doesn’t fit, and is from 1993. Thing looked rough. Jonn wasn’t just a platoon sergeant, he was ALL OF OUR platoon sergeant. So, my best friend and a commenter here went to Fort Useless (SP?) and got Jonn a new set of blues. All new ribbons, new blue cord, new Combat Infantry Badge. Because I’ll be damned if he’s going to his eternal reward in a shitty uniform.
I’m also planning the wake party. The family is afraid that some turds would show up. Probably a valid fear, since we have comments in the spam filter right now that would drive you right through the roof. We delete them. But if you live in the DC metro area, and you think you want to go, email me. My email is on the contact us page somewhere. We worked out a deal that it’s basically a flat fee, Guinness and other beers, and food included.
You guys have sent donations to the new donation thing. I’m going to probably put that money towards the uniform (those things are expensive) and paying for the wake party. Which is why you should come. It’s for the community. Now, it won’t cover it all, but we’ll figure it out. And yes, we will take donations there for Jonn’s family as well, the lump sum thing is so the poor bartender we get doesn’t have to do 50 checks.
I take the blame for not being clearer about this from jump street. And my only defense is I am jumping out of my ass trying to do a bunch of other things. Like go thru Jonn’s emails. Do you know that he has saved every email since 2008? Well, he has. And as I go thru them looking for things that need to be addressed I see a guy who loved all of you, and you guys clearly loved him. It’s 11:30 as I wrote this, and my no shit bedtime is usually 7:30. And I’ve been doing this every day since I lost my friend. But I should have made time to explain to you guys what is going on too.
Short story, we’re hoping to keep TAH up and running, fresh content etc. We’re not asking for your money, because near as I can tell everything is paid for now. Again, no one is getting a dime of it, unless you count the beers you can drink at his send-off. But please understand that not being forthcoming on everything is a two fold logic: 1) I’ve got Jonn’s family to worry about, and 2) Idiots out there will take advantage of the knowledge. Also, frankly, I have no idea how to do this, I’m not in this position very often.
But if you have questions, concerns, or thoughts, by all means share them with me. But my response may be terse. Not because I don’t care, it’s just that my list of shit to do in the next 2 weeks is longer than a giraffes neck.
But we’ll get through this. Together. I know I don’t post much here lately (again, lawyers told me not to, wasn’t my choice) so you might not know me. But Jonn trusted me enough to tell me he wanted me to keep the blog going. And while I don’t really *want* to, I would do anything for Jonn. So, just have a little faith in him and his judgement, even if you don’t know me enough to trust me. I wouldn’t do anything to hurt Jonn’s rep or his family. And I won’t do anything to take away your TAH family either.