
I don’t follow sports. But I’d have to be Amish not to know Ray Rice pummeled his fiancé and dropped her unconscious body trying to drag her out of an elevator on camera or that Adrian Peterson has been accused of whipping his 4 year old with a switch till he drew blood on the fronts and backs of his thighs and sent a text message to the boy’s mother saying he got the boy’s scrotum by mistake. I figure this is all for the courts and the NFL to sort out.
But tonight, at my parents’ house, watching Fox Business, there it is– The difference between what Rice (allegedly) did and what Peterson (allegedly) did. I saw a man (who may or may not have some football background) tell the other hosts or guests that the difference between Rice beating his wife and Anderson beating his son is that Rice punched his WIFE and Anderson was disciplining his son. Are you kidding me? Evidently there is some kind of consensus like this out there. Rice is a monster and Anderson is just some dad like the rest of us trying to get his kid to mind.
First of all, I don’t understand the comparison AT ALL. That’s like comparing salt in the wound to tabasco sauce in your wound. Like asking if you’d rather be cut with a razor blade or a k-bar. Dude. I’m pretty sure both suck. I supposed the talking heads are trying to justify the NFL’s response to either situation but why?
But, since we are keeping score, whipping your kid till he bleeds in a fit of rage is worse than knocking out your wife.
Rice’s wife, like most wives in the U.S., is an adult. Yes, being abused causes all kinds of emotional problems that mess up your thinking but in the end, a woman is still an adult. She is an adult who chooses to stay or go. I chose to stay. For over 10 years. Right, wrong, indifferent. I chose. She chooses. Women can choose. Sometimes they fight back. Sometimes they even start it. I know I did.
If they do leave, women have the benefit of having overcome. Having gotten away. Of being free. A child does not have that benefit.
That little boy, stripped naked and whipped by a damned NFL football player. He cannot choose. He cannot fight back. He cannot run. He can’t even hide. A child cannot defend himself. There is much debate about the propriety of spanking and pretty much any punishment these days. But can we all agree, that if someone whips a kid till he bleeds, not in just one place, but in a dozen, that that kid has been abused? Mistreated? And an abused kid has no hope for relief until he is finally a man. Would there be more outrage if it was a little girl, stripped naked and whipped?
The man who beat his wife- and showed no remorse when he knocked her out, he’s a monster. The man who whipped his boy till he bled is a monster. Let’s add to this list the apologists who claim it’s a man’s right to wound his child in the name of discipline. You sir, are also a monster.



